Yesterday was our first “home insemination” which occurred in the back of my car. I got a text from Lyn while at the pharmacy buying pre-seed that she got a positive OPK. This was much earlier than we expected. She usually gets a smiley face on CD12-13 and yesterday was CD10. With the benefit of using a known donor we were planning on starting inseminations the day before her expected positive OPK, the day of the positive and potentially the day after. Her early positive definitely put a wrench in that plan. So, I bought the pre-seed and headed straight home to see my wife quickly gathering all the supplies: 5mL syringe, specimen cup, newly purchased pre-seed, large coffee cup to hold the specimen cup in public, and the softcup. While getting ready to head out the door, I thought to grab a pillow to elevate the hips and a blanket. Read More »
Yesterday, we met with our known donor! I have met him before but it had been awhile so it was great to sit down and get a plan together. Luckily, during this meeting we spent more time hanging out than going over all the details–I was a little nervous about the details. One of the great things about our donor is that he has donated before for another couple so we are just following the same plan. In the past, they would give him a heads up of their estimated ovulation date and when they would need his assistance. On the day of, they would hang out a bit and then give him an inconspicuous large coffee cup with a specimen cup inside. He would take that and do his business in a bathroom and return it to them. He then leaves and the couple would do their insemination. Seems simple enough.
With my last cycle being cancelled due to no follicles on CD12, we have devised a new plan… A carrier switch up and going with a known donor. So that means we are walking away from the RE and the fertility clinic. While Lyn and I have been talking about this, I still feel like it was abrupt probably due to the cancelled cycle. Overall, I am ready to walk away from the clinic. It has been stressful and costly. Over the past year and change, we have spent $12,959.74 USD and we are starting to lose faith in the IUI process with frozen/thawed sperm. If we need to go back to frozen/thawed sperm, I think IVF will be more in the conversation than IUI. I think it is amazing that we live in time where we can order sperm on the internet, find a team of medical professionals ready to help and try to start a family. But it’s not perfect and we are tired. Read More »
So another cycle has passed and we are still no closer to a little one. This past cycle, we did a lot of new things: progesterone suppositories, femara, estrace, and a trigger shot. We had a lot of hope and the BFN stung. We got our hopes up with all the new progesterone/pregnancy symptoms. And worse of all, we continued to get very faint lines up to 14dpo but the beta blood test confirmed we were out. We both felt defeated and it led to some serious conversations about next steps. We decided that if this cycle doesn’t work, we may step away from our RE and fertility clinic and try at home with a known donor. Read More »
Today is CD7 and so far this cycle is pretty much the opposite of the last in most regards. I’m drinking my pomegranate juice, raspberry leaf tea and room temp water everyday. I’m eating sweet potatoes mostly daily. I’m also trying to be mindful of the nutritional value in the foods that I eat and staying away from heavily processed food. And I am continuing to do acupuncture once a week. It’s also my first medicated and monitored cycle–luckily, Lyn has experience in this realm to help out. That said, we did a have a little snafu with femara. Read More »
Hello folks! It’s Em. So the last month has certainly been a rollercoaster ride with many ups, downs and tight turns. It also came with that anxiety that happens as soon as you get strapped in a roller coaster and there is no turning back. That might be a little too dramatic… Anyways, after the miscarriage, we got hit with another delay that could potentially keep us from trying again until the first of the year. This was unsettling after all of our momentum so the gears started turning and we devised a new plan. Read More »
Hello! This is Em. We’ve been radio silent for a little bit because we got hit with some bad news. The day before we left for our anniversary/graduation/birthday vacation to Hawaii, we learned that the baby was slightly underdeveloped measuring at 6 weeks instead of 6 weeks and five days. More importantly, they couldn’t find a heartbeat. While speaking with the nurse practitioner, she said our chances of successfully continuing the pregnancy was about 50/50. In this instance, they would typically want us to come back in a week and do another ultrasound but we’d be in Hawaii and gone for roughly two weeks once the Memorial Day weekend was lumped in. She said we could go to an OB/GYN in Hawaii but ultimately decided that we didn’t want bad news from a stranger. That evening was not good and the worst part for me was this looming sense of helplessness. There was absolutely nothing that I could do. Neither of us were particularly thrilled to jump on a plane the next day but we did.Read More »
Short Update on Beta HCG
So, the beta is still increasing nicely! We are scheduled for our first ultrasound on May 15th.
Thoughts after the BFP:
It’s cycle day 1! We will be calling the fertility clinic tomorrow morning to schedule our baseline ultrasound appointment for this week. If all goes well, we will be moving forward with our first IUI this cycle.
As you all know, making a baby is not easy or cheap so we want to do all that we can to conceive in as few rounds as possible. After a lot of research and reading lots of blogs, here are a couple things we are trying out with our first insemination. Read More »
I will be keeping a running tally and updating this post after any appointments or after we receive any bills. We are hoping this list, encompassing all of our medical conception expenses, will help others with budgeting. Please note that these costs vary depending on clinics, insurances, luck, and everything in between.
So far, we are up to $13,455.85 with 5 IUI attempts comprising $12,959.74. Now, we are moving on to at home inseminations with a known donor and we expect expenses to slow down. See below for the details by month. Feel free to ask any questions or comments. Thanks!